We talk, just not about every detail of your past.
Many people hesitate to start therapy because they dread retelling the worst moments of their lives. They believe that in order to get better, they must drag all that darkness out into the light and scrutinize it piece by piece.
But to me, that is just like picking at an old wound. You aren’t cleaning it; you are just keeping it open. You are making it harder to heal.
From a biological perspective, every time you vividly retell a trauma, you fire those same neural pathways again. You risk reinforcing the very reaction we are trying to stop.
That is why we don’t work that way.
In our session, the structure of your reaction matters more than the content of your story. We are hunting for the signal that triggers the response, not the narrative history behind it.
This means you do not need to relive your trauma.
I will never ask you to tell me secrets you aren’t ready to share. We can do effective work without you ever verbalizing the specific details of what happened to you. If you feel the need for absolute privacy, you can even remain anonymous to me regarding the specifics of your situation.
My job isn’t to judge your history or ask you to suffer through it again. My job is to help you change how your body and mind respond to it.